Wow, this is tough. Let me start by telling you you’re not going to like the answer, at all.
What is “home?” If you’re living together, you’ve made yourself a hostage both emotionally and logistically.
“Boyfriend?” There’s a most unfortunate illusion sweeping through young people that “boyfriend” is equivalent to “husband” and “girlfriend” is equivalent to “wife.” The only resemblance is you’ve allowed sex to be part of your relationship. Unfortunately, there’s zero commitment in the word “boyfriend,” and you can expect him to behave exactly as he did before he became “boyfriend.” If he’s leaving you at home while staying away for night(s) at a time, he’s using home base—including you—to anchor his domestic interests while he pursues his other interests alone.
What should you do? You already know the answer to that, you’re just reluctant to do it. There’s no commitment in this relationship and since that’s what you signed up for, you don’t have any right to expect anything else or be upset about it. But unless you are willing to be continuously taken advantage of, it’s time to go.
The lesson in this sad situation is don’t do this again. You’re worth someone being committed to you for LIFE. That’s called marriage, and that’s the right place to call “home.”
Wishing you the best.
